The Exercise That Improves Your Orgasm

Who doesn't want better orgasms? But how about stronger, more powerful, earth-shattering orgasms that you can actually control....with no hands? Yes, ladies and gents, there is an exercise that can give you exactly that. But before you grab the gym bag and put on your spandex, listen to this. You can do this exercise anytime, anywhere. As a matter of fact, I am doing the exercise as I type this.

I am sure you have heard of the Kegal exercise and it's benefits. For those of you whom haven't heard...allow me to give you a brief rundown on the Kegal exercise and it's medical benefits. Then we'll discuss the mind-blowing sexual benefits it has for both men and women.

The Kegal exercise is simply tightening and loosening your pelvic muscles. The easiest way to learn how to perform kegal exercises is while you are urinating. Several time during urination, tighten your muscles and stop the flow of urine. Release. Do this several times until you get the hang of it. Once you understand how it feels to tighten the pelvic muscles, you can practice doing Kegal exercises anytime. There are also Kegal exercisers that you can purchase that can help you strengthen your pelvic floor muscles even more.

The Kegal exercise has many medical benefits for women and men. For women, this exercise strengthens the pelvic floor, strengthens the muscles that line the vagina as well as strengthening the muscles the control the bladder. This makes for better vaginal health and prevents incontinence as we age. For men, the Kegal exercise strengthens the prostate, can reduce inflammation from prostate illnesses and also prevents bladder incontinence.

Though all of that sounds pretty mundane and like doctor's office talk, the Kegal exercises can do amazing things for your sex life. Let's start with the men. Simply put, if you master the Kegal exercise, you'll no longer have to think of baseball, balancing the checkbook or your 80 year old neighbor in a thong in order to delay ejaculation. With strong pelvic muscles and control of those muscles, you will be able to maintain a harder, more powerful erection as well as holding back ejaculation and making intercourse last longer. Who doesn't want that? And think about it fellas, a harder, more powerful erection paired with longer intercourse results in a better orgasm for you.

Ladies, the Kegal exercise has even more surprises in store for you. Mastering the Kegal exercise not only makes your vagina tighter and healthier, it will allow you to control your orgasms and actually amp them up, making them more dynamic and powerful. Yes, you can excite him with a little vaginal squeeze here and there, but using your new found vaginal strength can benefit you if you time it just right.

You can practice this on your own, while masturbating, until you get the hang of it. While pleasuring yourself manually (this is one to leave the toys in the drawer) bring yourself to the point of arousal where you are not quite ready to orgasm, yet you know you just can't stop and go back to watching television or vacuuming the carpet. At this point, while still giving yourself clitoral stimulation, start flexing your vaginal muscles. You will feel an increase in stimulation and arousal. Keep trying this off and on until you are on the brink of orgasm. At that time flex your vaginal muscles and hold them as long as you can. As you near orgasm, flex and release, flex and release, flex and release.....until you climax. You'll notice that the flexing seems to bring the orgasm on more quickly. It draws more blood into the labia, clitoris and vagina, making everything much more sensitive. With practice, you can learn to delay your orgasm....building it to a delicious intensity...and release when you are ready. The stronger muscles will also give you an even stronger orgasm.

So ladies and gentlemen in addition to taking care of your health, take care of your sexual health and practice your Kegals. Do your Kegals while cooking dinner, mowing the lawn or while you're on the computer! Your body, and your partner, will thank you!

Doing The Deed, Part 2...The Secret Revealed

As promised, here is part two of my series on fellatio. In part one, I talked about the basics and some products to help things along a bit. But now for the technical part! Ah yes, let's discuss the mechanics of it all.....what to do, what not to do....and of course, the big SECRET. The one thing that will have him melting in the palm of your hand!

BE HANDS ON

Giving your partner oral pleasure doesn't mean you only need to use your mouth. Using your hands can greatly enhance the experience for him!

Stroking him and fondling his testicles while you pleasure him, gives him several sensations at one time. You can also make him more sensitive by encircling his penis in your fist and sliding your hand down to the base of the penis and holding it there, applying gentle pleasure. Your hand is acting like a c-ring, pulling back excess skin and slowing down blood flow which results in the penis becoming more rigid and the head of the penis much more sensitive. Holding this position for too long, however, can delay ejaculation. So unless your in it for the marathon, cramp-in-the-jaw and numb lips, you may want to alternate this technique with stroking and fondling.

BEDROOM EYES

I know you may feel silly doing this, but merely looking up at him while you are giving him oral pleasure will make him crazy. Many men enjoy watching their partner pleasure them (remember ladies, men are extremely visual creatures, you never look silly to them!) and it adds to their arousal. Just keep in mind to give him the bedroom eyes early on in the act...if you wait too long, his eyes will be closed tight and he'll be on another planet!

VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE

As I mentioned before, using your hands and switching things up, provides him with many different delicious sensations. You can also add to his pleasure by using your tongue, moving in different directions (up and down is good, using a circular motion is good too!) Use a twisting motion with your hands, make circles with your tongue, trace his entire length gently with your finger or tongue and pay close attention to his verbal cues. He'll let you know what feels the best.

You can also give him more unique sensations by sucking on ice or mints beforehand, filling your mouth with bubbling champagne or by using an enhancement gel or flavored lubricant (as mentioned in part one)

THAT'S THE SPOT

Everyone has a frenulem....it's that little piece of skin under our tongues. Men have two...the second being a bit further south. I like to call that sweet little bundle of sensation, "The F Spot." You'll see the little piece of skin at the head of the penis just where the upside down "V" shape meets the shaft. Pay very close attention to the little spot ladies! It contains a lot of wonderful nerve endings that can be as sensitive to him as your clitoris is to you!

Use the c-ring technique I explained earlier and use the thumb of your other hand to stimulate his F spot, running the length of the skin or in a massaging, circular motion. You can also stimulate the spot with your mouth and tongue. Stimulating this spot is much easier using the c-ring hold, since the F spot is on the underside of his penis. Remember, again, to pay close attention to his verbal and physical cues....this spot can sometimes be far too sensitive for some men and you may need to pace yourself, or back off completely.

THE PART WE DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT

Yes, I'm gonna go there.....someone has to! I'm just going to spit it out (no pun intended)...let's talk about swallowing. Some women do, some do it once in a while and some of us just gag at the mere thought. But I'm here to tell you, it's not required. Nope.....not at all. You're not going to lose your "wife/girlfriend of the year" badge or the "Kotex Real Women's Club" decoder ring! If you do swallow, great! If not, don't sweat it!

Though you are pleasuring him, swallowing still involves your body, and your body=your decision. And you wanna know something, 99% of men don't notice whether or not you swallow, nor do they care! But for those men in the 1%, there are ways around it simply by bringing him to climax with your hands (Remember that F spot!) or asking him (in your sexiest voice) to put it elsewhere. Hopefully, you get my drift without me having to use the terms for it. There's no need to something you prefer not to do, just be sure his trip to the end is an amazing ride!

THE BIG SECRET

You've been waiting on it, and some of you probably scrolled to the bottom of the blog right off the bat! But I'm here to give you the biggest secret to providing your partner with the absolute best oral sex he's ever had! He will think you're a Goddess! He'll marvel at your talent! He'll brag to his friends.......(or make your talent the biggest secret he's ever kept)

The big secret has nothing to do with technique, the magic of an amazing new product or even how good you are! It's simple....so simple, in fact, that you may not believe me....you may walk away from my blog thinking I'm full of it....but trust me.

The secret to the best fellatio he's ever experienced is....ENTHUSIASM! Yes ladies, get into it! Worship the very penis you are pleasuring! Treat it as if you've been crawling through the most dry and desolate desert and your desperately parched.....so thirsty you could die....and he is a cool, crisp, clear glass of water! He's the double hot fudge sundae you've been craving since starting that diet!

Moan, groan, giggle, look up at him, tell him how much you're enjoying it, growl, purr and just go nuts! Be an actress if you must, go for that Oscar! But being aroused to your absolute brink is the best way to do it. When you're fully aroused, I'm sure you're an animal.....let that animal go! Your sheer excitement and enthusiasm will arouse him in a way you can't achieve physically...it's all psychological! And aren't our brains the most sexual of all of our organs?

Give it a try......you'll be happy you did! Good luck ladies!

Down On Your Knees Ladies, Let's Do "The Deed"

Yes, I have been missing in action for a bit, but I'm back! And what a better way to start the new year than by talking about oral sex?!

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Whether you call it "blow job", "going down on", "giving head" or "earning shopping money", it all means the same thing..... fellatio....the act of pleasuring a man orally.


In this two part series, I'm going to talk to you about the art of pleasuring your partner in the most intimate way possible. We'll talk about about products to enhance the experience for him as well as tips, tricks and products to make the experience a pleasurable one for you as well. And at the end.....I'm going to tell you the ULTIMATE SECRET of giving the best fellatio he's ever had! Yes, readers, there IS a secret!



DROP THE PORN STAR IDEALS

The most important thing you can do for yourself and your partner is to drop the idea that you can perform, look like, or sound like a porn star. It's just not possible.....unless you have a camera crew, make up artists, lighting guys, hair dressers and someone to play cheesy music hiding in your closet and ready to go when you yell, "Action!" This act is only about the two of you and how to make him feel good! It's not about how long you can go before your jaw locks, what sexy positions you can contort your body into or even whether or not you swallow.



DON'T DREAD THE DEED!!

Though some women actually enjoy pleasuring their partner orally, there are some women who have problems with it for one reason or another.

Relaxing is absolutely crucial. Just as I said above, about not trying to be a porn star, you need to stop putting pressure on yourself. Trust me, there is no contest here and to him, it just feels good! Relax by having a glass of wine or cocktail, maybe taking a warm bath or shower (with him is a big plus), or sharing a massage. Take your time and make out a bit, not only is this not a contest, it's not a race either.

Making sure you are aroused is also a key to performing at your best. Just like preparing yourself for orgasm, being aroused before giving him oral pleasure allows you to concentrate not only on his pleasure, but the way you are feeling as well. If necessary, position yourself to where he can pleasure you orally or stimulate your clitoris while you perform oral sex on him. You can also use a strap-on type clitoral stimulator if you prefer to stay in a more submissive position. Hold off on your own orgasm as long as possible, the more aroused you are, the less inhibited you'll be.



"GAG ME WITH A......"

Contrary to what the pornography industry would have use believe, not all women are Linda Lovelace and have the capability of "deep throating" without gagging and retching. Yes, we can surprise ourselves sometimes and take much more than we ever thought we could, yet still other times, the slightest off-rhythm poke or movement can cause us to feel like we're going to lose our dinner!

Relaxing and being aroused helps with this problem a great deal. But for those of you who just can't seem to relax enough, there are a few of products I'd like to introduce you to.

First (drum roll, please) is Kama Sutra's Pleasure Balm. This product has been my best seller, to date. Though it is billed as a "stimulation gel", I discovered many years ago that it has an even better use. When applied to the very back of the tongue, after mere minutes, it numbs the gag reflex! It has a strong, but not unpleasant, mint flavor and lasts plenty long enough to get "the job" done. It only takes a small dollop to achieve numbness, so a container will last and pay for itself very quickly!

Secondly, I highly recommend this simple male masturbation sleeve. After he is aroused, slather him with a flavored lubricant and slide the sleeve over his penis and down toward the base. As you pleasure him orally, you can move the sleeve up and down and around in a twisting motion. This will more than mimic the feel of him being completely devoured and you can keep your dinner at the same time.

Finally, there is "Good Head." Sometimes a name says it all! This tasty gel can be used during oral sex to give him a cool, tingly sensation and provide you with a sweet taste at the same time. The bonus to this product is that afterward, when you have intercourse, he will feel icy cold to you and you will feel hot, hot, hot to him!



IT'S ALL ABOUT CONTROL

If you're one of those ladies who doesn't mind, or even enjoys giving him oral satisfaction, then position isn't a huge factor in your intimate play. However, for women who have difficulty controlling their gag reflex, positioning is essential.

Position yourself and your partner to where you can control his movement and dept of penetration, will keep you from getting caught off guard and again, risk loosing your dinner. The submissive position, female on her knees with him standing or on his knees allows you greater control as long as he doesn't grab your ears, hair or back of your head. The better position is him lying on his back with you kneeling between his legs. Again, we know you get excited guys, but unless we invite you to do so, don't grab our heads and shove! Ladies, remember, you can always tie his wrists to the bed with some silk scarves or pantyhose! Plus, that will add a whole new dimension to your bedroom activities.

So just to recap.....relax, be aroused, use product if necessary and find the perfect position.....easy!!

In part 2 of my fellatio fest, I'll share some tricks to send him to the moon as well as the biggest and best kept secret to giving the best oral pleasure! Stay tuned!

The Male G-Spot

Just when you thought women were the most sexually complicated creatures on earth, you learn that men have a g-spot too! Yes, it's true. Women aren't the only ones who have a choice of two delicious types of orgasms. Those men who aren't afraid to venture into a new sexual territory can experience heightened sexual pleasure like they've never felt before...the g-spot orgasm.

Where it is:
The male g-spot is the underside of the prostate gland. It is located at the top of the urethral tube, at the opening of the bladder. Due to it's location, the male g-spot is a little more difficult to reach than the female g-spot.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot:
You can easily stimulate the male g-spot directly, by reaching it through the rectum. This may be uncomfortable for some men, so you need to go slow and easy. Relaxation is the key, along with arousal. Indulge in plenty of foreplay before hand so that he's fully erect and ready to go.
The rectum does not produce it's own lubricant, so be sure and use ample amounts of sexual lubricant when trying to stimulate the g-spot. There are plenty of lubricants on the market that are specially made for anal play. They are formulated to be thicker and last longer than regular lubricants. Avoid anal lubricants that numb or desensitize the anal area as they can cause injury due to the fact that one cannot feel pain. Pain must be felt in order to avoid injury and know that he is relaxed enough to enjoy the experience. Once he is relaxed enough, he won't feel any pain or discomfort. The same rules apply to any woman who would like to experience anal play.

Using an index finger, massage and relax the sphincter muscle at the opening of the anus. The more you massage and stimulate, the more you'll feel the muscle relax. Slip a finger into the rectum and curl it upward. toward the testicles. Stimulate that area by gently stroking until he experiences a mind blowing climax.

You can also stimulate the male g-spot internally with specially designed sex toys for men, curved butt plugs or anal beads.

The male g-spot can also be stimulated indirectly, from the outside of the body. You can do this by using your finger tips or a small vibrator to press on the perinium, the area of flesh behind the testicles and in front of the anus. Since you are stimulating an internal spot from the outside, you'll want to apply more pressure and massage more deeply. Take it easy and listen to your partner's cues as to how hard and fast to stimulate. This type of stimulation feels especially good if done during an orgasm.

If you're at all concerned about cleanliness, have him shower beforehand. You can wear latex gloves if you wish, and cover sex toys with a condom (if it fits tightly). Ask your partner if he's had a bowel movement that day. If so, the likelihood of contamination is lower.

Be sure and wash your hands before and after, along with any sex toys used inside the rectum. Never use the same sex toys for anal and vaginal stimulation as that can cause vaginal and urinary tract infections.

Intensity:
When the male g-spot is massaged internally, the feeling is extremely intense and climax may come very quickly. The climax is deep and like nothing you've ever felt before! So take your time getting there, it will be well worth it.

Sexual Orientation Doesn't Matter!
We Americans have been brought up with strict standards of right and wrong, especially when it comes to sex. We've been bombarded with opinions that were formed centuries ago as to what is straight and what is gay.
All men have a prostate, therefore all men have a g-spot. It doesn't matter if you are straight, gay or bisexual. Prostate stimulation has been around as long as mankind and has been a perfected sexual art form in the Orient for centuries (they used knotted silk scarves).

Having your g-spot stimulated feels good. And if something feels good, why not try it? If a straight man has the desire to try g-spot stimulation, it doesn't mean he's gay. If a gay man doesn't like g-spot stimulation, it doesn't mean he's straight. This just happens to be one of those myths, like going blind from masturbating, that needs to be put to rest for good.